How to cope

Bereavement is a distressing but normal experience.

It is normal to feel sad when someone we love dies and that sadness can last for a long time. Most people find a way to cope with their sadness and move on with their life, but sometimes they may need some help.

You might find it helpful to talk to someone outside the family about how you are feeling, although sharing your feelings with other family members is also important.

You may have lots of different feelings and this is perfectly normal – there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

When someone close to you dies you might feel:

  • Sad – it’s OK to be sad and to let other people see that you are.

  • Angry – you might be angry about how the person died or just about the fact that they have left you

  • Guilty – remembering arguments or nasty things you may have said about them

  • Tired – being so sad takes a lot of energy and you may be finding it difficult to sleep

  • Lonely – you may feel that no one else understands how you feel

  • Relieved – you may be glad that a loved one is no longer suffering or in pain

If you have any, all or none of these feelings that is OK – you may think that you will never feel better again, but in time you will find it less painful. 

The more you can talk to someone about how you are feeling the more helpful that will be.

Take a look through our resources ideas – there are lots here but do ask us if you can’t find what you need.

Signposting for national bereavement and mental health organisations

Book recommendations

Information on attending an Inquest at a Coroner’s Court

My Special Person

The Coroners’ Courts Support Service